Love Makes Good Impressions
Greet one another with a kiss of love ~ 1Peter 5:14
People can tell a lot by the way you greet them. Have you ever met someone that just didn't seem all that happy to see you? Have you even been so happy to see someone you couldn't contain yourself?
When you first met your spouse , would you greet him or her differently than you do today? Probably. Back when things were new you couldn't wait to see your spouse. Back then it was exciting and fresh and new. It was amazing. Now, is it the same?
Do you take your spouse for granted? We all put energy in how we present ourselves to the public. We put our best foot forward and try to make a good impression. It's time to put that same effort into you greet your spouse.
Today's Dare
Think of a specific way you would like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile an enthusiasm. Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.
Sunday, March 4, 2012
Saturday, March 3, 2012
DAY EIGHT
Love is not Jealous
Love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like the blazing fire ~Song of Solomon8:6
Jealousy drives man stronger than just about anything. It can take over where love once was. It turns family and friends against one another. It is easy to justify but harder to rid yourself of. There are two different forms of jealousy
legitimate and illegitimate
Legitimate jealousy, righteous jealousy, occurs when a spouse turns their love from you to another person or thing. If a woman or a man were to have an affair, the other partner would have a justifiable jealously. The bible speaks of God's love for us being much the same. Not because he wants what we have (since he gave it all to us anyway) but because he loves us that much. His desire for us to follow him and search for him first comes from the love he has for us, like nothing anyone can fathom. "the Lord your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God"(Deuteronomy4:24) Can you imagine if you gave someone everything and they turned away from you? Wouldn't that truly hurt?
Illegitimate Jealousy is when you want what another has. You may be jealous of another person's job, house, family, car or popularity. To be moved with envy, to feel hatred because someone gets what it is you want, can derail even the best of intentions. The Bible tells us this leads also to fighting,quarreling and every evil thing (James 3:16, 4:1-2)
In marriage two become one, there for you should be each other's biggest champions. Wanting only what is best for your loved one and not being jealous of their successes can make a marriage run smoothly. Because love is not selfish it refuses to let jealousy in. When a husband receives praise , he refuses to boast and instead thanks his wife for helping to support him in his success. A loving wife will be the first to cheer for her husband when he wins.
It is time to let love, humility, and gratefulness destroy any jealousy that springs up in your heart It is time to let your spouse's success draw you closer together.
Today's Dare
Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list on negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.
Love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like the blazing fire ~Song of Solomon8:6
Jealousy drives man stronger than just about anything. It can take over where love once was. It turns family and friends against one another. It is easy to justify but harder to rid yourself of. There are two different forms of jealousy
legitimate and illegitimate
Legitimate jealousy, righteous jealousy, occurs when a spouse turns their love from you to another person or thing. If a woman or a man were to have an affair, the other partner would have a justifiable jealously. The bible speaks of God's love for us being much the same. Not because he wants what we have (since he gave it all to us anyway) but because he loves us that much. His desire for us to follow him and search for him first comes from the love he has for us, like nothing anyone can fathom. "the Lord your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God"(Deuteronomy4:24) Can you imagine if you gave someone everything and they turned away from you? Wouldn't that truly hurt?
Illegitimate Jealousy is when you want what another has. You may be jealous of another person's job, house, family, car or popularity. To be moved with envy, to feel hatred because someone gets what it is you want, can derail even the best of intentions. The Bible tells us this leads also to fighting,quarreling and every evil thing (James 3:16, 4:1-2)
In marriage two become one, there for you should be each other's biggest champions. Wanting only what is best for your loved one and not being jealous of their successes can make a marriage run smoothly. Because love is not selfish it refuses to let jealousy in. When a husband receives praise , he refuses to boast and instead thanks his wife for helping to support him in his success. A loving wife will be the first to cheer for her husband when he wins.
It is time to let love, humility, and gratefulness destroy any jealousy that springs up in your heart It is time to let your spouse's success draw you closer together.
Today's Dare
Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list on negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.
Thursday, March 1, 2012
DAY SEVEN
LOVE BELIEVES THE BEST
Love believes all things, hopes all things.~1Corinthians 13:7
There are two rooms. One to the left and one to the right.
The One on the right is the Room of Appreciation. It is down a bright and glittering hallway.It is bathed in light and promise.Good things are written there about the people in your life. It is warm and sunny. Positive affirmations abound and spill from the door when it opens. Happiness bounces around the room in balls of soft spun gold. Every inch of the room is filled with love, light and happiness. It is where you place all positive encouraging thoughts about your partner.
The One on the left is the Room of Depreciation. It is down a deep dark hallway with a heavy metal door.Negative things are written here about the people in your life. The door locks only from the inside so it is very difficult to get out. It is cold and dark here, with a wet musty smell. Angry words burst out when you open the door. Put downs and complaints explode and multiply around the room. Every inch of the room is filled with anger, darkness and despair. It is where every complaint about your partner is placed.
Where do you spend your time?Like most of us the darker room is easier to get into and harder to get out. the longer you are with someone the more time you end up spending in the dark. It must be a conscious effort to go into the Room of Appreciation, just like when you first met.
It is time to start thinking differently. focus on the positive and the happiness. Focus on your dreams and hopes together and move forward in love. We need to lock the door on our Room of Depreciation and never go in, unless it's to write "CONVERTED IN LOVE" everywhere.
Today's Dare
For today's dare. get two sheets of paper. One the first one spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your souse. then do the same with negative things on the other sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day There is a different purpose for each.
At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic
Love believes all things, hopes all things.~1Corinthians 13:7
There are two rooms. One to the left and one to the right.
The One on the right is the Room of Appreciation. It is down a bright and glittering hallway.It is bathed in light and promise.Good things are written there about the people in your life. It is warm and sunny. Positive affirmations abound and spill from the door when it opens. Happiness bounces around the room in balls of soft spun gold. Every inch of the room is filled with love, light and happiness. It is where you place all positive encouraging thoughts about your partner.
The One on the left is the Room of Depreciation. It is down a deep dark hallway with a heavy metal door.Negative things are written here about the people in your life. The door locks only from the inside so it is very difficult to get out. It is cold and dark here, with a wet musty smell. Angry words burst out when you open the door. Put downs and complaints explode and multiply around the room. Every inch of the room is filled with anger, darkness and despair. It is where every complaint about your partner is placed.
Where do you spend your time?Like most of us the darker room is easier to get into and harder to get out. the longer you are with someone the more time you end up spending in the dark. It must be a conscious effort to go into the Room of Appreciation, just like when you first met.
It is time to start thinking differently. focus on the positive and the happiness. Focus on your dreams and hopes together and move forward in love. We need to lock the door on our Room of Depreciation and never go in, unless it's to write "CONVERTED IN LOVE" everywhere.
Today's Dare
For today's dare. get two sheets of paper. One the first one spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your souse. then do the same with negative things on the other sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day There is a different purpose for each.
At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)