DAY THREE

LOVE IS NOT SELFISH
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love: give preference to one another in honor~Romans 12:10

In the world today we have all become enamored with ourselves. Its about us. How we feel, what we want, what we think, and where we want to go. We give very little thought to what the other people in our lives may want. We often become so self absorbed that we can no longer see the impact of our actions on the loved ones in our life. The true opposite of the word love is selfishness.

When did you last act in your own desire rather than for the betterment of your partner? I know personally I do that often and it saddens me. I have personally created a rift that until today , I wasn't even aware existed.my darling husband gets up with the children should they wake at night. He works during the way , I do not. It is certainly a very selfish thing for me to do. I have to work on that.

Your actions may not be the only selfish thing. What is in your head? Where is your heart? What motivates you?
When a husband is selfish he puts his own desires, priorities, and interests ahead of his spouse. For a wife who complains of the time and effort she puts into caring for her husband and family that too is selfishness. Sadly we all can be selfish from time to time, but it is the hallmark of your relationship? Do you live a selfish life? love does not seek its own but the better of others. True love looks for a way to say yes. It cares for the other imperfect human in a loving way in their best interest.

Our Jobs as part of a whole is to care and love the other in a pure unselfish way. to not hurt or complain about the work needed to maintain the relationship.

even generous actions can be selfish if the motive is to gain favor or worth. If it is simply to boast then you have acted in selfishness. Love is satisfied only in the happiness of others. This does not mean you cannot be happy, but you cannot at the expense of your partner. When you make loving your partner a priority you will find inner joy. If you find it hard to sacrifice your own desires to benefit your spouse you may have a deeper problem with selfishness than you want to admit.

ask yourself
Do i truly want whats best for my husband or wife?
Do I truly want them to feel loved by me?
Do they believe i have their best interest in mind?
Do they see me as looking out for myself first?

What is your reputation in the eyes of the people around you? Your partner also has the trouble of loving a selfish person. So be the first to demonstrate real love, with your eyes wide open.


"Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves~Philippians 2:3"

Today's Dare
Whatever you put your time, energy and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments buy your spouse something that says "I WAS THINKING OF YOU TODAY"