LOVE IS KIND
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you~ Ephesians 4:32
"Kindness is love in action. If patience is how love reacts then kindness is how love acts to maximize the positive.(love dare)"one prevents the other is proactive. We must act in spite of our feelings and become proactive in our approach to our spouse. Love is kindness and kindness makes you attractive. It is very important you understand the connection between the two sides of love.
The Bible tells us that kindness is crucial " do not let kindness and truth leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good repute in the sight of God and man" ~Proverbs 3:3-4
Seem to mundane for you? Let's break it down further
Gentleness~When kindness is at the center of your being you are careful in your treatment of your spouse. You do not purposely hurt them. you are tender, thoughtful, and gentle. Even when you must express something less than pleasant you do it in a way that does not hurt the other unnecessarily.
Helpfulness~It is important you are helpful and that you meet the needs of the moment. kindness is the grace that allows a woman to serve her husband without worry of her rights. It also allows man to be curious as to his wife's needs. To also meet those needs even if it means his are put on hold.
Willingness~through kindness you are inspired to be agreeable. You strive to be cooperative and flexible rather than reluctant, obstinate, and stubborn. A kind husband ends arguments simply by being kind and flexible rather than demanding his own way.
Initiative~ Do you wait to be told when it is time to help? Do you wait until anger boils up in order to move and change? Do you wait to decide until the final minute? When acting in kindness you see the need and act... first
It may be difficult to demonstrate love and kindness when you do not feel it. But love in it's truest sense is not based on feelings. Love shows thoughtful actions even when their is no reward. Jesus loves us, and often we turn our backs. So must be the same in your marriage and it need be unconditionally
Day Two Dare
In addition to to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.
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Showing posts with label day one. Show all posts
Thursday, February 23, 2012
Day One complete
It's a struggle for me to not unload on Daniel when I am upset. I can't imagine that is easy to listen to. So this day one was really hard to do. I found myself physically biting my tongue many many times last night. I got so frustrated a few times and still chose to say nothing. The gift was that waking up this morning I don't even really remember what they were. I did slip and tell him he put Grace's tights on backwards. Did he need to know that? Nope, he did not but it came from my mouth faster then I could stop it.
This is going to be work.Lord help me to be more positive so this sin't such a struggle. Lord help me to remember all the good reasons why I married this man. Lord thank you for this day, my family and my husband. I am truly blessed
This is going to be work.Lord help me to be more positive so this sin't such a struggle. Lord help me to remember all the good reasons why I married this man. Lord thank you for this day, my family and my husband. I am truly blessed
Wednesday, February 22, 2012
DAY ONE
LOVE IS PATIENT
be completely humble and gentle ; be patient, bearing with one another in love. ~ Ephesians 4:2
Love is the most powerful feeling that we as humans know. this still does not equal a drop in the amount that our God loves us.Love motivated us for life and no relationship is successful without it.It is built on patience and kindness.
No one likes impatient people(I should know I tend to be one) the less patient you are the less people there will be around you to be impatient with. For some it comes easily, others like myself it is a bit harder. I know that i truly struggle in this realm. I am grateful Daniel is at work most of the day today while I try to master my patience. I am praying hard that the Lord watches over all of us within this dare to show us the true nature of our beings and allow us to change.
While a patient response can mend and defuse and angry response does not make things better.
What tone would you like to set in your home. What do you want to be, because, what you are inside your house is what you are in the defining moments. The moments that define who you are are seldom prepared for, and they may bring out the best or the worst in us. Who are you in those defining moments?
Day One Dare
The words we speak are a direct view into our hearts. They mirror our thoughts and feelings. For the next day, resolve to be patient and say nothing negative to your partner. Say nothing if the temptation arises.
Can I say this is going to be really hard for me. I tend to spout off at Daniel when I get stressed out. I always feel terrible after, so I need to work on that one a little more. I want my home to be a peaceful happy place that my children will remember. I want them to grow up knowing that love exists and there can be a happily ever after.
be completely humble and gentle ; be patient, bearing with one another in love. ~ Ephesians 4:2
Love is the most powerful feeling that we as humans know. this still does not equal a drop in the amount that our God loves us.Love motivated us for life and no relationship is successful without it.It is built on patience and kindness.
No one likes impatient people(I should know I tend to be one) the less patient you are the less people there will be around you to be impatient with. For some it comes easily, others like myself it is a bit harder. I know that i truly struggle in this realm. I am grateful Daniel is at work most of the day today while I try to master my patience. I am praying hard that the Lord watches over all of us within this dare to show us the true nature of our beings and allow us to change.
While a patient response can mend and defuse and angry response does not make things better.
What tone would you like to set in your home. What do you want to be, because, what you are inside your house is what you are in the defining moments. The moments that define who you are are seldom prepared for, and they may bring out the best or the worst in us. Who are you in those defining moments?
Day One Dare
The words we speak are a direct view into our hearts. They mirror our thoughts and feelings. For the next day, resolve to be patient and say nothing negative to your partner. Say nothing if the temptation arises.
Can I say this is going to be really hard for me. I tend to spout off at Daniel when I get stressed out. I always feel terrible after, so I need to work on that one a little more. I want my home to be a peaceful happy place that my children will remember. I want them to grow up knowing that love exists and there can be a happily ever after.
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