DAY FIVE

LOVE IS NOT RUDE
He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him.~Proverbs 27:14

Being rude is nothing less than irritating. If you are doing or saying things that are not necessary or unpleasant then you are being rude. poor manners,foul language,or sarcastic remarks (undoubtedly the hardest for me) are not enjoyable attributes in a spouse.

When a man is focused on loving his partner he is behaves in a way that is loving and kind, rather than rude and dismissive. A woman avoids those things which frustrate or disenchant her love. You must express good manners and exercises self-control around your spouse.By doing this you say to them that you value them. If you allow love to change your behavior you will raise the respect level around you.If you dare to love you will give only the best to your own, because you cherish them. If you are unwilling to make needed changes in your behavior then your marriage will suffer for it.

Women, we too suffer from rudeness, though not in the same way as men. King Solomon said "Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.~proverbs 25:24." However, men especially need this lesson "it is well with the man who is gracious~Psalm112:5"
We are either rude through ignorance or selfishness. Neither of them is a good thing
Ask yourself

How does your spouse feel about the way you speak and act around them?
How does your behavior affect your mates sense of worth?
Would your partner describe you as a blessing or condescending and embarrassing?

If you think it is only your spouse in need of work here, you are likely suffering from ignorance as well as selfishness.
here are some principles to focus on
1. Guard the golden rule- treat your mate as you want to be treated.
2.No double standards - be as considerate to your spouse as you are to strangers and coworkers
3. Honor requests- consider what your spouse has asked of you. If in doubt ...ask

Today's dare
Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him/her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior.This is from their perspective only.